We read plenty of stories about divorces that pit one spouse against the other; divorces that are taken over by disparaging accusations, refusals to compromise and attempts to punish an ex.

Even though these types of divorce may not be uncommon, they aren’t inevitable. In fact, there are many examples of divorcing couples who are able to avoid the contentiousness of the situation by staying focused on resolving the issues at hand and prioritizing peacefulness over anger.

There are many different aspects of a divorce that can benefit from collaboration and cooperation. Figuring out child custody arrangements and dividing property are two such aspects. People who are able to work through these matters themselves can save a lot of money, time and energy by avoiding the courtroom and they often reach a more agreeable decision than if the decisions were handled by a judge.

This cooperative approach seems be to favored by actress Jennifer Garner and actor Ben Affleck who recently announced they were divorcing after 10 years of marriage.

Reports indicate that the pair is pursuing mediation as a means of resolving issues including the division of assets. They are also planning to continue living on the same property as a way to stay focused on raising their three children together.

This may be a very good example of why people may want to explore their options for collaboration and mediation. Even though the couple is in the public eye and dealing with considerable assets, they are evidently committed to avoiding drama and protecting their family.

Anyone who is put off by the potential battles that can arise during divorce may want to strongly consider discussing alternative dispute resolution methods like mediation with their attorney.

Source: Business Standard, “Ben Affleck, Jennifer Garner in no rush to file divorce?” July 28, 2015