While ending your marriage is apt to change your life, your divorce does not have to be an all-out war. On the contrary, you likely have the option to proceed with a collaborative divorce. With this approach, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse work together to divide property, settle custody matters or otherwise address divorce issues. 

There are a few ways to have a collaborative divorce. Commonly, though, couples choose divorce mediation. This process, which is often cheaper and faster than traditional court proceedings, involves using a third-party mediator to reach an acceptable agreement. Here are three ways to prepare yourself for divorce mediation: 

  1. Commit to the process

Arguably, the most important thing you can do to prepare for divorce mediation is to commit to the process. That is, you must be certain mediating your divorce is the right course of action. You also must recognize the collaborative nature of the mediation process. As such, keep an open mind and operate on good faith. 

  1. Identify your priorities

Before showing up to mediation, think critically about your goals. For example, you may want to keep the house in exchange for giving your spouse other assets. When identifying your priorities, it may help to make a list of everything you and your spouse jointly own. You may also want to prepare a post-divorce budget to give you a realistic idea of the financial resources you need to live comfortably. 

  1. Get some help

Even though mediation is often a better alternative to a court battle, the process can be confusing. Accordingly, you could need some help navigating it. By working with the right professionals, you likely increase your chances of having a successful mediation. 

Even though your marriage is coming to an end, you do not want to waste time, money or effort on a protracted court fight. Fortunately, mediation may offer a ready solution. Getting the most out of your mediation, though, requires some effort.