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Three custody and divorce mistakes to avoid

Navigation of custody and divorce is complex, but the greatest priority should always be the well-being of your kids. Even the most well-intentioned parents can make serious mistakes in the midst of a separation. It is important to be conscientious of how you are treating your kids throughout the process and how they are adjusting to the changes that are taking place.

Teamwork tips for divorce

When you and your spouse prepare to end your marriage, it may seem natural to view divorce as a practical and symbolic end to the team you have been. However, throughout the legal process, you are still a team with the same objectives, and if you can maintain this outlook, both of you may benefit substantially.

Can you reach an alimony settlement outside of court?

Your spouse may agree that you made the sacrifices that supported his or her career success and may have expressed gratitude over this fact. However, now that you are divorcing, sharing that significantly higher earning potential with you in the form of alimony may have lessened the appreciation of your contribution. Understanding the ins and outs of spousal support may help both of you to approach the table with reasonable expectations so you can come to an agreement without a court battle.

Tips for setting up a visitation schedule in the best interest of the children

One of the top stressors in a divorce is sharing the children. When a judge must decide child custody because parents cannot work out the arrangements, it almost always fuels the conflict after the divorce. Working together to set up a visitation schedule is much more effective not only for the parents but also for the children. Still, it can be quite difficult to navigate this issue with someone you are divorcing. Here are some tips to help you find solutions.

Is divorce contagious among friends?

If you have ever had a friend get divorced, only to have another do the same, you might wonder if divorce is contagious. You would be right. Pew Research analyzed decades of research and discovered that the study participants were almost 75 percent more likely to divorce if a friend got divorced. In small companies, the divorce contagion was about 55 percent.

Elements to include in a parenting plan

There are many decisions to make when getting divorced. If you have children, one of the most important things you have to decide is how to share the time with your kids. Hopefully, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse can consider what is best for the child. Creating a time-sharing schedule is just one aspect of a parenting plan. Here are some of the things you might want to include in your own parenting plan:

Helping your child adjust to two homes

According to, Florida ranks No. 7 in the nation for the highest rates of divorced families; about 13.2 percent of families in the state are divorced. The highest rate, in Nevada, is 14.6 percent. Divorce doesn't have to be messy and angry. A collaborative divorce is possible when both parties can put aside their differences, problem-solve and agree to a settlement and parenting plan.

7 topics to discuss with your lawyer when planning for a divorce

Many couples don't want to take the bitter approach to a divorce. The marriage is over, and they just want to divide up property and work out a parenting plan to move on with their lives. If you're looking at a collaborative divorce, you should still talk to an attorney before signing any papers. A collaborative divorce is where both parties work with unbiased experts, such as mediators, who can help them through the resolution process without fighting and bitterness. According to the American Bar Association, divorce mediation is often 40 to 60 percent lower than divorce litigation. Here are seven items that should be discussed with your own attorney when you're planning a divorce to ensure your rights are protected.

How to choose a divorce lawyer

If a divorce is in your future, one of the most important decisions you and your spouse will make is your choice of an attorney to represent you. That choice will normally decide the outcome of your case. It can make the difference between a divorce that is drawn out, costly and combative, or one in which you and your spouse reach an amicable settlement out-of-court.

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