You’ll catch more bees with honey than vinegar during divorce

No one enjoys going through a divorce. It means you have to separate your assets, break down how you’ll divide your time with your children and making other important but frustrating decisions.

While that is the case, it is necessary to remember that you may be able to get more of what you want if you are respectful and avoid being antagonistic during the divorce.

There is an old saying that you’ll catch more bees using honey than you would with vinegar. The point of this is to say that if you are kind, respectful and even willing to work together with your spouse, you’re much more likely to have a positive outcome.

How can you work together during a stressful time in your life?

In divorce, one of the things you can agree to is collaboration. There are various ways to collaborate, but both you and your spouse need to decide on a method and see it through.

For example, you could agree that you want to keep your case out of divorce court. You may agree to mediation, arbitration or collaborative sessions where you sit down and talk through the issues that you’re dealing with.

Conflicts may arise, but you need to stick to the plan

Know that it’s possible that conflicts could arise during your negotiations. If they do, you need to stick to the ideals you started these negotiations with. That means that you don’t turn to name calling or becoming antagonistic to try to get your way.

Instead, talk to your attorney about ways to negotiate out of even the most contentious situations. For example, you may just need to take a break for a few days and then reconvene, or you might benefit from a different kind of alternative dispute resolution.

Collaborating can help you resolve your divorce positively

While a divorce isn’t something most people want to go through during their lifetimes, you can go through it and come out with a more positive outcome if you and your spouse are willing to put in the time and work together toward a common, agreeable solution.