Could “bird-nesting” help your kids adjust to your divorce?

When you and your former spouse part ways, you may prioritize keeping things as normal as possible for any children you share. Increasingly, divorcing parents across Florida who share similar objectives are opting for a “bird-nesting” arrangement to minimize changes their children must face after their parents split.

What is bird-nesting, and how might it help minimize the impact of divorce on your children?

Defining bird-nesting

Per NBC News, bird-nesting refers to a residential arrangement that keeps your children living in the same home they did before your divorce. Instead of the kids switching between your home and that of your ex, you and your ex do the switching, with one staying in the once-shared home with the kids while the other stays elsewhere.

It may not be feasible for you and your ex to each maintain your own separate home in a bird-nesting arrangement. Often, former couples practicing bird-nesting keep a small or studio apartment close by that each parent uses when not staying in the family home.

Recognizing the advantages of bird-nesting

You may want to consider bird-nesting if your kids have concerns about having to switch schools or leave their existing social circles. Moving back and forth between homes may make it harder for your kids to maintain the relationships they have come to value.

A bird-nesting arrangement may also have logistical advantages. Your children spend less time moving back and forth between homes, and they do not have to pack a bag each time when doing so. Your kids may also benefit from having all of their belongings and valuables in a single place, preventing trips from one home to the other to collect forgotten belongings.

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