When you decide to divorce your spouse, the reality is that you both may have grievances that you need to address. You could have some conflicts and issues to work through, too.
Going through a divorce in which you and your spouse can’t agree may be somewhat normal, but have an adversarial tone to your divorce is only going to drag it out and make it more difficult to resolve in the end. If you want to get the best results, it’s better to work on collaborating and coming together to resolve divorce-related issues. Failing to do that could mean that you spend more money and time on your divorce overall.
Why shouldn’t you go through an adversarial divorce?
Simply put, an adversarial divorce is one in which you and your spouse cannot agree. If you can’t come to an agreement, then you will need to litigate your case. A litigated divorce requires you to argue for your share of assets or the outcome you want for your divorce.
Since this will happen at trial in family court, your attorney will need to prepare paperwork and documents to help you argue your case. They will also represent you at trial and be focused on getting you as much out of your marriage as possible. You will need to prepare for the trial yourself, too, making sure you understand what to expect in the court room.
Since they do these things, your attorney will be paid more to litigate. You should expect to spend more time working on your case and building it up, so you can make a strong case in court. You may also need to pay for experts to look at your finances or other aspects of your case to help.
You don’t have to draw out divorce by being adversaries
Whether you agree with getting divorced or not, you don’t have to drag out your divorce by being adversaries. It’s an option to work together or to use alternative methods of dispute resolution to resolve your divorce-related issues. Avoiding litigation can help you save money and time, so you can focus on moving forward with your life sooner than if you have to go to court.