Divorce conversations with your children can be complex. You know they need to understand the changes that are coming, and you want to help them adjust. But you also know it’s going to be difficult for them as family life changes.
Fortunately, there are steps you can take to help the process go more smoothly and support your children’s long-term growth, happiness and well-being. Below are three tips to keep in mind.
1. Have a family meeting
The divorce conversation should take place as a family meeting. This means you, your spouse, and all of your children should be present. The goal is for you and your spouse to present a united front and reassure your children that you both care about them and will continue to be involved. It’s best to break the news to everyone at once, so they hear it directly from you.
2. Don’t blame anyone
During the conversation, avoid blaming your spouse or putting the children in a position where they feel like they have to choose sides. Also, keep in mind that children often blame themselves for a divorce. Be sure to reassure them clearly that the divorce is not their fault.
3. Focus on consistent routines
When discussing how life will look going forward, focus on maintaining or creating consistent routines. While there will be some changes related to child custody and scheduling, the more you can preserve the routines your children are used to, the more stability and comfort they will feel.
Getting divorced when children are involved can be complicated, so take time to carefully understand your legal rights and options.
