According to Records.com, Florida ranks No. 7 in the nation for the highest rates of divorced families; about 13.2 percent of families in the state are divorced. The highest rate, in Nevada, is 14.6 percent. Divorce doesn't have to be messy and angry. A collaborative divorce is possible when both parties can put aside their differences, problem-solve and agree to a settlement and parenting plan.
Still, kids are often hurt in the divorce process and often must live in two households. It's difficult to have to go from home to home, but both parents can aid in the transition. We'd like to make the following recommendations to help your child adjust to two homes. Work together with the other parent to make your child feel safe and secure no matter where he or she is sleeping.
- Give the child her or his own space in the new house. Even if your child has to share a bedroom, provide a dresser and bookcase that belong to her or him.
- Let the child decorate the new room. Kids can help choose paint, wallpaper and décor. Let them feel empowered to have a say in their room.
- Put up pictures of the other parent in the child's bedroom. You might include a calendar to help the child know which days they go where.
- Keep supplies such as toothpaste, toothbrush, hairbrush and pajamas at each home. This makes the child feel more secure, and it saves time when packing up. There won't be any worries about leaving something behind.
- Take a few of the child's favorite toys to the new home or get duplicates.
- Let your child pick out furniture if possible. Older children especially will appreciate being able to choose their own desk and bed.
Make your child a priority
The experienced divorce attorneys with our firm are wholly committed to a peaceful divorce where both parties work together for the good of the children involved. Sometimes, marriages do not work out, but this doesn't mean children have to pay the price. Those who have both parents involved in their lives are often better adjusted to life after a divorce. You can make it happen, but it won't be easy. Our lawyers are here to help you find the solution and keep your kids from becoming a pawn in the divorce. Talk to us to see what we can do for you and your family.